This, I get. When I see assholes, I am thinking of a person who is simply a thorn in one’s side, ALL OF THE TIME. No one, absolutely no one wants to be around them. They mean trouble, always. What you’ve just described, just seems like a misunderstood person, not someone everyone can take in full, only in small doses, but… again, not an all out asshole? Or maybe I am interpreting it wrong?