I am a strong woman
I am a strong woman and I make no apologies for that. I am a strong woman and I will not change to make a man feel more manly, I am a strong woman because I want to be a role model for my girls, I am a strong woman and it took me a long time to reconnect with her.
Yes, years ago I was strong but I like so many other women out there, I gave myself to a man, to my family, to everyone and everything around me that I lost myself. You wake up one morning, look in the mirror and think who is this person? Why am I here? What is my purpose in life? And some women, like me at the time, even say I hate myself and the way my life turned out.
Yes, we forgot, we try to please, we want to make everyone else happy, because as women that is what we are programmed to do. From childhood we are taught that we learn from our mothers and grandmother's that this is the way it is done.
So we do it until one day you're nothing more than a shell, a scared, sad shell of who you once were.
When I decided to take back my power, when I decided to refind myself, I found that strong woman I used to be. There were many years in between, now I was older, I went through a lot more crap since I was first that woman. I was wiser now, I knew who I was, what I would put up with and what was definitely a deal breaker, yes, I've grown a lot since then.
Now I know some men don't like strong women and hey, to each his own. If you can't deal with me, then you're not a strong enough man and truthfully I don't want you anyways.
I refuse to change to inflate someone's ego, to make you feel like more of a man...been there...done that… and I'm not having a repeat performance.
There's a difference between being a strong woman and being a bitch
I am not a bitch, I am not domineering, I will never put down a man. I will never make you feel worse to make myself feel better, I will treat you like a king, have your back, be your ride or die girl but I will never change myself to make you feel better about yourself.
There are alot of strong, independent, beautiful women out there, my cousin is one of those women, I love her strength. I love that she speaks her mind, I love that she stands up for her and others rights, this is who she is...period and she makes no excuses for who she is.
I have a lot of friends who are also this way and yes, at times it is hard to find a man who is comfortable with this type of woman, they can't deal with us so they call us bitches and that's okay. We all have our own types, some want submissive, some want quiet women, some want a women to act or be dumb and some men actually want a smart, independent women.
Look let's be real, we do this as women, we want a strong man but a sensitive man... but not too sensitive because then we feel we have to be the man in the relationship. We want a strong man but not a domineering man, like the one who tries to control you.
We are not looking for perfection, just the perfect man for us and at this stage of the game we'd rather be alone than settle, then be unhappy, then change to try to make someone else happy who will never be happy with themselves. I've already been unhappy for too many years,now I am happy with myself, with my life...either I am going to continue to be happy or I will go at it alone and know I'll be happy by myself, simple as that.
So today my friends, remember life is too short, I tell you this all the time. Be who God created you to be... be bold, be confident, be intelligent, be strong, be yourself and know that that is good enough...you are good enough...you are a beautiful, strong woman, so go out there and own it!
"Be the change you want to see"
"And just when the caterpillar thought his life over...he turned into a beautiful butterfly"
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