If you don’t have anything nice to say....

If you read my blog you'll know I am all about uplifting people, I want to encourage, inspire and let people know there is nothing they cannot do.

The only time I ever look down on a person, is if I am giving them a hand up.

That is who I am, I would never put someone else down, call them out 
(Okay, I called Mr. Con Artist out but that was a public service announcement) 
or purposely make another human being feel bad, that is just not what I am about. 
So I don't get the haters out there, people who obviously have nothing better to do than say nasty things about you.

They sit behind their Glass walls of their castles, with their no lives just waiting to cut someone down. For the sole purpose of making someone else feel bad.

Why? I, better than anyone should know the answer to this question as I was verbally abusive by a controlling, manipulate, narcissistic man who needed to put me down at every turn to make himself feel better and feel superior to me.

I guess these haters have no life or are like my ex and need to feel better by putting someone else down, maybe they are jealous, maybe they are never happy or just plain mean hearted.

I don't know what causes a person to randomly pick someone out and intentionally call them out on public media.

Look I am a big girl, I get if you put your life out there, you better be ready for the haters and believe me they will be plenty. But as a human being, for the life of me, can't get why you would want to intentionally hurt someone?

Look, I am the first to raise my hand when I screw up, when I fall on my face or when I am wrong and believe me, it happens a lot.

I am the first to tell it like it is, especially when it comes to my writing, I am not a Harvard grad, I do not have perfect grammar or do not write "proper English" whatever the hell that means. I write like I speak, if you know me and you read my blog, its like we are sitting in my living room taking, it's me and it's real.

Is it perfect? Hell, no but neither am I. What I am is real, I am honest, I am a hard in your face New Yorker but I have a heart, a huge heart that will never intentionally hurt someone else.

Do the haters bother me? Yes, because there is so many people out there that could use a kind word, that maybe are going through something you have no idea about and what you say can change all of that. 
That we all live in this world with so much hate, why add to it? Why be mean for the sake of being mean?

So, today my friends, remember what you say effects another, good or bad, you can cut someone down with your words or lift someone up with them.

It's all about the choices you make and if you don't know which one you want to do, do what your mother should have taught you...if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all....

"Be the change you want to see"
"And just when the caterpillar thought his life over...he turned into a beautiful butterfly"

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