we are at this point in our life where we are not just looking for love, but something more.
We want somebody whom we can spend the rest of our life with. Someone who is serious and committed. Someone who is willing to go through the thick and the thin with us. Someone to share the burden of bigger adult responsibilities, like having a family or getting a house with.
When you dedicate your life and entire self to something or somebody, it is only natural for you to wish for some returns. Or at least, you hope that things won’t backfire and cause you disappointment and hurt.
Well, as much as it’s true that you can never be 100% sure about a person, or predict the future, it’s not impossible to at least judge whether your significant other is a man ready to give you much more than just love and affection, or if he’s still a boy only in for the fun.
Personally, I don’t believe in changing myself for the other person in the relationship, or waiting for them to change for me. I think sometimes people try too hard to make things work. I had been through that before, and things only got uglier. The motivation to change should come from within yourself, and not because of some pressure from somebody else.
If there is one thing I look for in love, it’s security. Because I understand that there are many things in life that we depend on but can’t be 100% sure of — our job, our health and etc. In view of this, I want a partner whom I know is going to be there for me, in sickness or in health, for better or for worse. Because that’s what I’m gonna give him in the relationship too.
A real man lets you know that you can rely on him by being consistent in both his words and actions. He lets you know that he tries his best for you every time. He will not make promises that he knows he can’t keep, or do things that he knows may sabotage the relationship. Because he wants to make sure that you feel safe and protected with him.