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My one year anniversary of writing on Medium was 7/19.

Wow, that time flew by. I have enjoyed experimenting with my writing style on Medium and being myself. I have written, poems, haikus, and longer articles about career and personal development.

I opened up about being happily single and divorced twice. Writing on Medium has allowed me to step out of my comfort zone with writing.

Who knows what I will write about next? Maybe some fiction? Why not? I create the rules.

Writing takes dedication. Either you like to write or you don’t. There is no gray area.


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No Apologies Needed

“Why do you have all those dark marks on your face?”

I was shocked by this question. I could not believe someone would have the audacity to ask me such a question. As a teenager, this type of question would hurt you to your core, as it did for me. Hell, I was a teenager, so acne was a thing.

What was I supposed to do if pimples left dark marks on my face? On white people, the marks are red, on black people, the marks are dark brown, either way, they are marks. Do the marks define who I…

Lessons from Personality Isn’t Permanent

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“Human beings are works in progress that mistakenly think they are finished.” Dr. Dan Gilbert

As a Man Thinketh

Think and Grow Rich

These are two books I read annually.

I have found another book I will add to this list: Personality Isn’t Permanent by Dr. Benjamin Hardy, a mentor of mine. As you are creating your life there are rules you need to follow, rules that you make for yourself.

In the one week it took me to read this book, here is what I learned that has changed my perspective on life and…

They are easier than you think

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“If you want happiness for an hour — take a nap.’
If you want happiness for a day — go fishing.
If you want happiness for a year — inherit a fortune.
If you want happiness for a lifetime — help someone else.”
Chinese Proverb

Most people think they would be happy if they had more “stuff” or more “money.” A better car or house sounds good to most people. There is nothing wrong with wanting these items, but make sure you are not buying them to fill a void. A car is car, not a “replacement for voids”


To be controlled or not to be controlled is the question

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“A man’s ethical behavior should be based effectually on sympathy, education, and social ties and needs; no religious basis is necessary. Man would indeed be in a poor way if he had to be restrained by fear of punishment and hope of reward after death.” — Albert Einstein

That quote gave me chills.

I was raised in church. I sang in the choir, taught Sunday School, ushered, taught other classes, and served on multiple committees. I know, it was as exhausting as it sounds.

As a little girl I wondered about the people who did not attend church, I wondered…

A Self-Examination

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“Success usually comes to those who are too busy to be looking for it.”

— Henry David Thoreau

Everyone wants to be successful, but what does this mean?

I have goals; I mean big goals, and when I achieve them I will have more goals, so I often ponder with this question, what does success mean? Am I chasing it? What the hell do I want? I had to be honest with myself and journal my thoughts to the 17 suggestions below, it was eye-opening.

Self-examination is key for success.

Here are 17 reasons you need to examine why you…

A Quick Review of O.C.E.A.N.

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There have been many personality models developed over history.

According to research starting with Fisk then expanded by scientists Goldberg, Norman, and Smith, they developed the most commonly accepted model we use today for personality.

“The Big Five,” or you may know them as O.C.E.A.N.

Even though we are getting away from personalities becoming a permanent part of who we are as human beings, it is interesting to know where you fall in the O.C.E.A.N.

For more information on personality not being permanent check out Dr. Ben Hardy’s new book.

Here is a brief breakdown of O.C.E.A.N.

Openness. This isn’t…

Marla J. Albertie

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