Am I A Selfish Bitch or Are You Just A Controlling Gaslighter?
Francesca Lewis

I’m all too familiar with gaslighting from the wrong end. That’s why I take issue with linking it to concepts of altruism and generosity. Yes, the typical gaslighter will prey on those with generous and altruistic tendencies, but that does not make those things tools of the abuser. The gaslighter’s tools are confusion and guilt.