Life softens you. After you have received a few blows in life, you become a little humble, a little more even keeled. When everything is going great, you develop hubris, you think who is going to stop you — none. Therefore, receiving some blows in life is good.
Don’t give up. Be brave. When all is said and done, you can tell yourself or others can say of you that you managed it well. It’s not what one could have wished for if one had a choice. We have to deal with the cards we are dealt with. The last thing I should do is, give up. What good comes of it? Anybody can give up. Not everybody can take it on. Be one of the ones who would have done it, who would do it. Onward with courage. Lord Krishna will steer you. He always has. You know that. Yes, indeed.
The question of culpability for the situation doesn’t much arise in my mind. I have little doubt her mother brought it upon us. Even so, the fact that T has to suffer and she and I have to separate, hurts me all the same.