Your future depends on 5 people you spend with

Dr. Isaiah Hankel | How To Be Confident & Focused In Life : talks about the 5 -ve energies you should remove right now.

Your are like a espionage. If you are living in a -ve environment then this is rubbing your potential because of continuously feeding you with -ve beliefs , pessimism , limiting thoughts , anger and frustrations. This is called TOXIC or people with toxicity. [2]

The success your get depends on the environment your are now. |Your environment is a huge factor !

You become the people you hang out with the most, so quit hanging out with dopey people. If you want to be successful in life, if you want to be happy, you need to be very deliberate with who you let into your life.

In particular, there are five major type of people who you should remove from your life right now.

  1. First, you have to cut out the downers, the negative people.
  2. Second, you have to cut out the distractors.
  3. Third, you have to get rid of people who play the victim.
  4. Fourth, you have to stay away from know-it-alls. You know who I’m talking about, those people who never let you forget your past mistakes, and are always the first to tell you about everything that can go wrong.
  5. Then fifth and finally, please dump the drama queens. They’re awful.

Okay. Good and bad behavior is contagious. One study found that emotions circulate through social networks just like the flu virus. These patterns can actually be tracked. Numerically, each positive person you surround yourself with increases your chances of being positive by 11%, but each negative person you let into your life more than doubles your chances of being negative.

Why does this happen? Interacting with other people engages your mirror neuron system. A mirror neuron is a cell in your brain that fires both when you act, and when you observe another person acting. This system makes you copy other people whether you want to or not. If you spend enough time with anyone, no matter who it is, you will start to mimic their behavior. This means you need to start cutting negative people out of your life right now.

Here are five people you should start avoiding.

Number one, the downer. Look, some people can walk into a room and light it up. Other people walk into a room and kill it. Downers are those that kill positive energy. They are those people who seem to have a dark cloud following them wherever they go. These people are unlucky, negative, and always depressed. Don’t feel bad for these people. Odds are they like being miserable.

They like the attention it gives them. “ are you saying I should just drop unhappy people from my life?” Yeah. Your happiness, and even your physical health depends on it. Research shows that being exposed to negative people peels away neurons in your hippocampus, the part of your brain responsible for problem-solving.

he hippocampus is a small organ located within the brain’s medial temporal lobe and forms an important part of the limbic system, the region that regulates emotions. The hippocampus is associated mainly with memory, in particular long-term memory. The organ also plays an important role in spatial navigation[1].

This means that negative people, downers, they literally rot your brain, so stop hanging out with them. Stop hanging out with people who suck away your energy.

Second, start avoiding distracting people. Distractors come in a variety of flavors. There are those annoying people who drive you nuts, and who make you focus on them, and what they are doing, instead of focusing on yourself and your mission. There are also those people that are amazing, or really hot, or brilliant, those people who catch your eye for one reason or another and make you forget about your goals, and everything that you’ve set out to do with your life. A lot of promising futures have been sacrificed to these distractors. Some people drop out of school, or quit a job they love just to be closer to a distracting person, to stay in that distracting relationship. Others get hooked on celebrity gossip, or get lured into get-rich-quick schemes. Look, everything that glitters is not always gold. Most shiny things are just distractions, and this can include people. Don’t let an amazing person make you forget that you are amazing too, and that you have something amazing to offer the world.

Third, stay away from people who play the victim. Don’t know how to identify a victim? Here’s what you look for. Look for people who preach self-sacrifice.

Look for people who try to make you feel guilty for your strengths, or who try to make you feel guilty for your accomplishments. Finally, look for people who try to make you feel bad just because they are feeling bad.

Victims are masters of positioning themselves on the moral high ground, and using obligation to manipulate you into doing what they want you to do. Be especially cautious of people who try to make you feel responsible for their happiness. No one is responsible for someone else’s happiness.

Fourth, stay away from know-it-alls. Know-it-alls are those people who will never let you live down past mistakes, or the past low positions that you once held in life.

Fifth , do your self a favor, once and for all, and refuse to be around drama queens, or drama kings. Drama queens are people who love conflicts . These people are addicted to drama into winning arguments no matter the cost , even if there nothing to be won. Drama people love drama for the sake of drama :) . Their mind is simple and their sense are boring, the only thing this get their mind working is by creating some horrible drama and watch your miserable or confused . But , don’t give it to them!

What is Toxicity mean ? it gives different meaning to different people,ofcourse, it’s a subjective term , the toxicity we focusing right now is :

  1. People who are very depressed
  2. People with limiting believes -
  3. Closed Minded People *(They want you to fit into one particular mold their playing. )
  4. Anger pron people / Violence — (literally ,say people who throw chairs or table :) )
  5. Drama — these people is like playing drama and always their life goes up and down up and down .

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