One of the biggest changes for me has been learning to turn down commitments. It’s hard. After finishing my master’s, I had hopes of resting and learning to be lazy, but it turns out I don’t know how to do it. I get antsy without a project. Part of my burnout recovery has been to fill my life with things that bring me joy and don’t require dangerous plate-spinning: learning to play an instrument, reading, working on personal writing projects, hiking. I’m trying to prioritize spending time with friends again, though I still eschew crowds of people. I’m moving more slowly and working hard to resist the urge to fill the space with obligations. And I’m excited about my next milestone birthday, because I plan to celebrate twice as much to make up for my sad and self-denying 40th.