This is Why I’m Entitled (and why you are, too)
I am entitled.
I don’t want to be. It’s not like I wake up in the morning and say “today, I shall be an entitled little brat.”
But I am. And in a way, I do.
Chances are you do, too.
It’s hard not to lose yourself in your own mind, when you spend so much time in it.
Your thoughts become warped.
You come up with a great idea, you work hard at something, and you slip into the trap that you deserve a result.
That the world owes you something.
That for once, everything should turn out okay.
Because you’ve earned it.
You deserve a break, and you deserve the outcome.
This isn’t how life works. It doesn’t tot up what has or has not gone your way. It is, for the most part, random.
You get hit by a car tomorrow… well guess what, your house may burn down the next day.
People get hit by cars. Houses burn down. This isn’t an either/or situation.
What happens to you happens to you.
Sometimes you work hard and it doesn’t go according to plan. It hurts. It makes you angry.
Angry at what, I don’t know.
The people around you?
Life in general?
The more I think about entitlement, the more I relate it to being victim.
Again, we are all guilty of this from time to time.
Some more than others, sure… but we all do it.
We all play the pity card and expect those around us to pull out the violin.
“Why, you deserved better than you got. Hard luck.”
“They screwed you over. You were clearly the best.”
“Everything is going against you at the moment. I’m so sorry.”
Screw that. These are just words.
Come on now.
It isn’t even a case that you earn your own luck.
Things just happen. Life happens.
Sometimes you win, other times you lose.
Sure, at times it feels like you’re going through a rough path or an unlucky streak.
But really, all this is is you piecing together situations to suit your narrative.
And when I say ‘you’, I mean ‘me’, too.
We all do it. It’s something even the most selfless and reflective individual will do from time to time.
Because we’re in our own head ALL THE TIME.
We create a biased outlook constantly.
This is why it annoys me when people look at millennials and younger people in general as the entitled bunch of society.
Entitlement isn’t a millennial problem. It’s a people problem.
It’s byproduct of being a victim.
It’s after affect of pandering to other people’s needs.
My parents did it to me, in the same way I do it to my son.
I try not to, but he’s my son.
I love him. I want him to feel good.
I try to be a good parent and a stern one, but above all I succumb to be a loving one.
As such, my son… low and behold… will be entitled.
Just like the rest of us.
So in my opinion, entitlement isn’t a problem.
It’s a trait of being human, and we cannot wish it away in the same way we cannot wish away love or pain or any other emotion.
It’s in us.
It’s part of us.
No… entitlement only becomes a problem when you start to believe your own bullshit.
It’s okay to feel pain. It’s okay to feel let down. It’s okay to feel however the fuck you feel.
It is not okay to cling to it and build a narrative that suits your own needs.
This isn’t fair on those around you, and this isn’t fair on you.
This will not serve you. This will not help you grow.
All this leads to is you being the victim.
But who the hell wants to be a victim?
Who the hell wants pity and fluffy affirmations?
Who wants a short term fix at the expense of real, long term growth?
Not me, and I imagine not you.
So in short, I am entitled.
You are entitled, too.
We spend the vast majority of time in our own heads, believing our own hype, and creating one biased thought after another.
So when something doesn’t align with what we have in our head, we ‘feel’.
… let down
Again, this is fine.
Just don’t lose yourself in it.
Remind yourself each day that you are indeed entitled, and that this does not make you special.
This simply makes you just like everyone else: a human.
Get back to work.
Give it your best.
Try something else, and act upon it.
The world doesn’t owe you a damn thing, and neither does a single person who lives in it