Why We Have a Love Hate Relationship With Social Media

Why is it that we love to take pictures, yet hate pictures were taken of us? Why is it that we are quick to point out the flaws of others but fight to defend our own flaws? Why do we seek friends and likes in social media, yet, we demonize social platforms?

It is because we tend to love others and hate ourselves. We either put others on a pedestal or we treat them miserably, all because we don’t have the courage to accept what we see in the mirror.

Social media is no different. We love to use the platforms, however, we become upset when it exposes our reality. Many of us doubt that there is any reality within social media, believing it is artificial. There is no way someone has more than 100 real friends, people are jerks because they troll others and leave negative comments. Someone is always trying to sell us something or scam us. Everybody is looking for a quick buck, our information is being stolen, and people make their lives look better than their current reality. This has a bit of truth to it, yet, if we dive a little deeper, we will discover the real truth of social media. Social media is a mirror of our society.

The reason why we hate social media so much is because it is a mirror. It is not fake, it only allows us to see what we put in front of it, ourselves! So, if we believe social media is fake, we must believe our society is fake. To get a better understanding of this, we have to think about our personal lives without social media.

How many times do we try to portray our lives as better than reality?

Are we looking to get rich fast an easy?

Do we constantly talk about others behind clothes doors to make ourselves feel better?

Do we try to outwork, out earn, outspend, or compete against our neighbors to feel better about ourselves?

Haven’t people always tried to scam us or gain leverage by learning information about us to sell us something?

Since grade school, haven’t we tried to be liked, famous, respected or popular?

The reality is social media has put our issues front and center for us to see. We can either run from our reflection, accept our reflection as is, or make the changes necessary to create the appearances we would like to see in the mirror. If we are wise, we will stop demonizing social media, stop running from our reflection, accept ourselves for whom we are, and take time to learn more about ourselves as a society. Then we can use the knowledge that we learned about ourselves to make changes and get all glammed up for our selfie!!

Originally published at needtochangemylife.com on March 25, 2018.