Out of Control: Quit micro-managing your life

It’s like if we say all the right things, make all the right moves, and plan for every scenario we can accomplish whatever we want.

But have any of us actually done that?

I mean has anything ever gone exactly to your plan?

I love Jurassic Park,

the films and the books.

My favorite character is Dr. Malcolm, who is played by Jeff Goldblum in the movies. He’s not a paleontologist, a prehistoric biologist, or even a dinosaur enthusiast; he’s a mathematician.

A real good adder and subtracter.

His career has led him to adopting “Chaos Theory” (sometimes called “The Butterfly Effect”) as the ultimate explanation of the universe. Chaos theory suggests that you can’t predict anything, our world is chaotic by nature, and constantly subject to the erratic behaviors of the universe.

Sound familiar?

Because of his belief in Chaos Theory Dr. Malcolm is rather cynical. He thinks the whole idea of Jurassic Park is bound for disaster, and he was obviously right.

It’s a fictional story, but it rings true even still.

Jurassic Park, 1993

​​​​We all have our Jurassic Park.

And some of us out there still think that if we plan enough, work hard enough, and want it enough, we can control the dinosaurs.

Theres something inherently chaotic in our world.

People call it different things.

Evil.

Sin.

Hate.

So we do things to try to control that chaos.

The problem is, we’ve taken to using chaotic methods to control the chaos.

Here’s an example:

Violence is a major problem in our world.

Most of us can agree on that.

So what do we do to control violence?

We fight fire with fire.

My biggest issue with this way of thinking is that violence, hate, sin, and evil, are all chaotic (I.E. devoid of any order or potential to be controlled.)

But we still try to control it.

Maybe “peace” doesn’t try to be in control.

So what would it look like to combat chaos with true peace?

I think that true peace can be found only in the moment.

True peace never happens “after.”

It can only be found in the acceptance of the current situation.

If our internal dialogue is always saying things like,

“I’ll be fine after this happens” or “Things will be better once that is over” we will never find peace.

It will always be just out of reach.

It will always be one day away.

Peace isn’t always found in pleasant circumstances.

Choosing peace may be painful for some of us, but there is a powerful freedom found in those moments.

Combat the chaos you are facing not with opposition, but acceptance.

You’re never going to be able to control the dinosaurs.

And once we accept that we are able to learn powerful lessons from our own lives.