You summed it up in a nutshell. My entire family attends church, but we all have separate walks. People forget that Christianity is supposed to be about hope and grace, not superiority. One of my favorite song lines is “the saints are just the sinners who fall down and get up”. Grace is for everyone, including your ex pastor, if he so chooses it. I’ve had God’s grace extended to me several times, but my goal for myself and myself only, is to try and live so that I don’t have to keep asking for it. Not there yet.