Today, I’m seeing my friend Ali for the first time in over a year. She lives an hour away from me, and I’m not sure what time I’ll be going home. I need to plan an all-day outfit — one that keeps me feeling cute and comfortable during the day, and one that keeps me feeling comfortable and somewhat invisible at night. I would love to wear a crop top with the word “tomboy” across the front, but it has drawn so much attention (in the form of laughter, stares, people attempting to guess my gender and what body parts I have as they walk by) in the past and I don’t feel like dealing with that today. Instead, I wear a thin tank top underneath a green plaid button-down paired with cutoff shorts. I feel more hidden underneath layers, and feeling hidden means feeling safe.
**I use the gender neutral pronouns: they/them**
Feeling deep ambivalence about how we dress is something the trans and gender non-conforming communities experience acutely, but it’s not just about us. We’d love to hear from everybody about how they navigate self presentation each day.
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