The billion-dollar self-help industry is powered by a single obsession: our hankering to look “outside” for solutions, inspirations and validations. From attending expensive conferences to buying formulaic books, we spend hours — if not days, months and even years — seeking a “magic” solution to end all our woes.
Ironically, somewhere in this maddening quest to find flash-and-fizzle quick fixes, we lose touch with ourselves… and especially our inner voice. I’m not saying that external motivators are ineffectual. Far from it.
However, banking solely on externals to bolster our self-esteem is neither sustaining nor satisfying. So, how do we shut out the noise around us and reconnect with the one person who really matters? You talk to them… or rather, you talk to yourself.
What is “self-talk”?
Self-talk is, quite simply, a running internal monologue about your feelings, your frustrations, your actions, your goals, your beliefs, your circumstances, your dreams and your nightmares.
“Since self-image is determined by what you consistently say to yourself about yourself, you have the power to direct your self-image by directing your self-talk,” writes Jason Selk and Tom Bartow in their bestseller Organize Tomorrow Today. And an improved self-image is the linchpin of not only a fun and fulfilling life, but a productive one as well.
The science behind self-talk is still emerging, but researchers are quickly realizing that it offers enormous cognitive, emotional and psychological benefits. As long as you know how to take advantage of it correctly.
Why should you talk to yourself?
Self-talk provides a multitude of advantages that impact both your short-term satisfaction and long-term well-being.