Reader Questions: My husband and I can’t have a baby, and it’s tearing us apart! Can you help?
What follows is a transcript of a private chat I had with a hurting woman, who approached me for counsel on her marital problems. The issues were so diverse, that I couldn’t select the particular one to focus on for today’s Reader Questions, so I copied the correspondence, only editing out anything that might reveal her identity, and I’m sharing it with you, with her permission. I shared some more thoughts at the end, too. I hope you are blessed as you read.
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Reader: After reading quite a number of your articles I felt like sharing my marital challenge. Its quite a big one, sensitive, and sometimes gives me sleepless night and headache. Hummm. My marriage of almost 13 years is shaking terribly and love seems to have gone.
Ufuomaee: I’m sorry to hear that. Don’t worry, you can trust me to keep our discussion confidential.
Reader: I’m sharing this with you because I can see that you are a child of God and God has deposited some materials in you that can help someone like me, hence I decided to share my pains, fears, and confusion with you. I thought I was happy and secure in the marriage until 2014. Since then it is one issue or the other. Long story short: The problem is centered on the fact that I don’t have a baby yet. Twelve and a half long years no baby. Right now, it is either there is a child or no marriage. I was shocked when my hubby indirectly presented this option. However, all his attitude and language speaks it to my face right now. Well, I do not blame him already, because he is suffering too like myself.
