The Marriage ABCs — R for Respect is Reciprocal

“Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband” (Ephesians 5:33).

Do you know what the verse above is saying? Do you know what it is not saying??? Many use this and other verses to imply that a wife owes her husband respect, reverence and submission, while she shouldn’t expect such from him. Except, of course, his love.

However, have you ever seen someone love without submission? Even Jesus submitted Himself to His followers. He washed their feet (John 13:4–5). He told them He came to serve and not to be served (Matt 20:28). He died for them!!! And Paul tells us that husbands should love their wives in a like manner (Eph 5:25).

Okay, so we have to admit that for one to love another, they must submit to the other. If we consider the preceeding verse before this section on marriage, “..submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God” (Eph 5:21), we can see that we are all called to loving submission. Certainly, by Paul telling the husbands to love their wives as themselves, he wasn’t suggesting that the wives shouldn’t love their husbands as…