Don’t Be Where Dreams Go To Die

When you say no to your dreams, it’s easy to say no to everyone else’s

If you look back through your life so far, I am sure you will recall some moments when a friend or even a member of your family excitedly shared a plan with you.

Chances are that you will recall various reactions to those shared plans; some positive, others negative, and others just plain half-hearted.

Our POVs on issues are often skewed by where we are coming from and the things that we have seen there and when someone asks for your view on a plan that they have, this is probably what they are asking for but they also need something else.

My friend Emeka is, currently, pursuing a career in filmmaking. We were in school together, where he studied an Engineering course. When he shared his plans for filmmaking with me, we both knew next to nothing about the movie industry in Nigeria.

Another friend runs Camille Chude a fashion brand that she named after herself. It was yet another plan shared with me in school while she was studying a social science course.

Somto Onubogu owns Schucks Media, a company committed to telling the best brand stories. Eddy Mboho has a film blog, Brown Eyed Raven, where she gushes about all the series and movie news we love. A host of my other friends have various other things set up that are deviations from what may have been considered their norm.

I have learnt over time to scream “Yaaassss” loudly when dreams are shared with me. My mouth is a waterpot with a very dedicated goal of fertilizing dreams.

A Little Faith

Earlier on I pointed out that although people are looking for our POVs when they share a dream with us, they also need something else: A. LITTLE. FAITH.

Beyond all the reasons that you have for why a dream may fail, do you have any faith whatsoever in the person that is dreaming? This is a question that you must ask yourself before offering up your POV on anyone’s dream.

There is no greater power and support you can give someone than to look them in the eye, and with sincerity/conviction say, “I believe in you.” — Ken Poirot

A little faith in a person can make up for a whole lot of fears about their plan. Most of the ideas that have actually been successful have not been perfect from the get-go and people have been successful in the most unlikely of endeavours.

Your little faith in a person and their dream increases their own faith in their undertaking. As Jason Versey puts it;

“When you believe in someone you profoundly increase their ability to have faith in themselves and achieve. When you love someone you imprint on their heart something so powerful that it changes the trajectory of their life. When you do both, you set into motion, a gift to the world…because those who are believed in and loved understand the beauty of a legacy and the absolute duty of paying it forward.”

Why Is This Difficult?

Even when you know all the above, it can still be difficult to say yes to people’s dreams or even to couch your scepticism in language that will not totally destroy their confidence. This may be because you have been careful your whole life.

If you have never taken chances or gone after your own dream wholeheartedly only to see that dream walk into reality, it would be practically impossible to subscribe to another person’s dream.

Until you start chasing your dreams it is easy to consider dreams as a privilege reserved for a special few of whom you and your friends are not in the number. THAT. IS. A. LIE.

Dream as loud as you want to and go after those dreams. Tire the world out with your enthusiasm and soon enough, your dreams will come true.