To be accepted:

To be understood.

Why does it make a difference to prefer to be accepted even when misunderstood than to be rejected and misunderstood?

Because we live in a world in which it is more important to be accepted than understood.

Being both accepted and understood is already assumed by just being accepted, and that's the problem at the core of wanting to be accepted.

The person who speaks out wants to listen to be accepted, but not necessarily to be understood. Listening becomes a mantra for us and our speech to be accepted.

This has little to do with seeking approval like a needy person.

When we cheerfully welcome being accepted even when we are not understood, we are not an attention seeker, but an attention provider.

The attention-provider does not need us. He/she want us to need him/her so that he/she can invest his/her ego on us to "fix" us if we wanted to be fixed.

When we want to be understood we have to forget about being accepted; we have to learn that our view will often border with and be nonsense to other people.

Our views will often be nonsense for other people, not for some people, nor for most people, nor for a few people, but for an always changing amount of people.

This will hold true regardless of the validity of our views.

Ulysses Alvarez Laviada

Genuine tragedies in the world are not conflicts between right and wrong. They are conflicts between two rights. Friedrich Hegel.

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