What we need to socialize
Before 2000, we used papers and all other stationery for our works. A diary, a telephone catalog, a note book and a pen were with us when traveling or on a business visit. Our desks were filled with various stationery like pen holders with color pens, envelops, glue tubes and openers, and many more.
Communication at that time were mainly done through postal and courier services. Everything were documented on hard copies. Filed hard copies with cataloged folders. Registers were used to track down any document.
We met people face to face and talked. We connected with them in real life. We share our knowledge and experience in real communities with real people at real events. We made new friends and enemies.
Friends visit our homes and we visited them, at least once a year. Our families connected as well. We knew our friend as a person as well as a family. We understand us as a whole.
But this century is owned buy modern technology. It help us to work fast and efficiently. We don’t carry telephone catalogues and and notebooks anymore. Our working desks only have a computer with internet connection and few stationary.
Technology made our work more easier, faster and efficient than ever. Communication and connectivity all over the world is one of the best, technology offered.
On the other hand, our social life gone haywire with technology as well. Most of people have many connections, followers and online friends. Most of the times it is all over the world.
In the mean time, we don’t know our neighbours or our villagers as well. We haven’t even saw the face of the person how sit next to us in the commute.
We don’t know what is happening in our neighborhood unless it distributes on a social media. We don’t even know our best friends birthday unless social media or reminder poped up.
“Human organism built for seven primary relationships. I don’t need 300,000 friend who i don’t even know”~ Laurence fishburne
We are social creatures. Not in a virtual world. In the real world. We need to talk with people in order to have a clear mind. We need to feel our friends in order to feel real connections. We need the feeling of being among ours in order to avoid the loneliness.
If i don’t understand feelings of a person who talk with me, or meet me on a party, or maybe in a park, he can’t be my friend. I don’t even know him. I don’t know how he thinks or how he feels about something. I don’t even know what he means when he talks.
We are connected with each-others through feelings. We need to feel the smile through their eyes. We need to feel their words through their face. We need to understand the person infront of us to make him a friend, a enemy or a total stranger.
We need to know our differences. We need to understand who he/she is. Thats how we make friends and have our best friends. We know them and understand them better.
As humans, we need connetions with real people, in real word, in real time. Not the technology.
Connecting is knowing and understanding through feelings. Not through smily, likes or texts.