A Random File of Advice: 12 Quick Treats

I found a text file on my computer, nearly four years old. I don’t know how it came about and what it was originally for, but it seems like a random scratchpad of advice.

Rather than waste it, here is that list of 12 snippets in case any might help inspire you today.


It doesn’t matter how many people think you’re awesome; that doesn’t make you right.


Spend time with positive people.

I’d rather spend time with a bunch of positive people who are challenging me, than be with a bunch of negative people who think I’m right.


Work with others who do the things you don’t.

Can’t be bothered? Don’t have the time? Need to use a skill quickly? Then get someone else on the case!


Don’t give up too soon. Don’t be too stubborn to stop.


Love your neighbour as yourself. The golden rule.


Forget stardom and pulling power.

Give people their dues, no matter where they stand in the pecking order. And don’t feel starstruck when you get to engage with someone ‘at the top’. We’re all human beings.


Stop swimming in your success. Build upon it instead.


Be reasonable while you’re ruthless.

Much of the world appears to be made in such a way that you have to grab stuff or lose out. That doesn’t mean you have to leave everyone else in the dark, or grab from them out of spite.


Balance doesn’t mean 50/50. A work/life balance is not about equal shares of both. It means finding relaxed contentedness in all that you do.


Share the kudos.

Because without the help of others, you’d be nowhere. You get to awesome through more than yourself.

The idea may be yours, you may have put in the hours, and you may have fought while those around you called you crazy. After all that, it still takes help and support from others. Reach out and recognise who helps you get there, past, present and future. Nothing happens in isolation.


Look to the future, but don’t sweat on it and don’t be too blinkered. So much in life happens out of the blue.

Prepare for a future you’d like, and don’t panic if that path changes a million times. Embracing the change is difficult, but so rewarding.


Saying no is just as important as saying yes.

Bonus tip

Keep learning. Don’t feel embarrassed when you don’t know something.

My son asks me questions I don’t know the answer to, so I look the answers up with him. Then we both know. Like the time he asked me what the little crane was that lifts up people so they can reach things like streetlights.

I didn’t know, so I looked it up. This ‘people crane’ is actually called a cherry picker. That may have been obvious to everyone but me, I don’t know, but I’m not embarrassed about my ignorance. I’d be more embarrassed if I didn’t try to learn more when I got the chance…

You have to own your ignorance to grow your knowledge.

I didn’t know that this person-carrying device is called a ‘cherry picker’. I found out when my son asked for its name.

Have you ever found something you had written and had no memory of how it came about?

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