The 3 Essential Steps to Move from Fear Into Your Purpose

Amparo I. Vazqwright
Nov 4 · 4 min read

Ten years ago, I was a recent grad, unsure what career direction to pursue but feeling a strong calling towards personal- and spiritual- development and life coaching.

I would love to say that what followed was a beautiful decade-long journey that turned into a soul-fulfilling career and business.

Sadly, no.

Instead, I listened to the internal and external voices that told me…

  • “I’m not experienced enough to share anything of value, much less to coach anyone”
  • “I’m not worthy of sharing intuited messages”
  • “I’m not strong enough for the mean-spirited comments that will surely come”

It was a long journey back to what called me.

I now aim to ease the journeys of others, to make it possible for more sensitive, intuitive, beautiful souls to sustainably share their messages with the world.

To that end, I want to share three things that helped me confront and heal my fears, and get my life back on track, in the hopes it’ll help you.

Reframe Self-Doubt

Self-doubt and I have had a loooooong relationship. For most of my life, it crippled my ability to reach for the things I genuinely yearned for. I listened to those who doubted me, believing they knew me truly; and, I listened to the self-doubt within as literal “reads” on my abilities and potential.

That was self-doubt in the “negative”. I didn’t realize until recently that self-doubt, like everything else, has a “positive” as well.

In the positive, self-doubt is a teacher. It’s the part that says, “you can do that a little better.” It’s the part that says, “you’re not the know-er of everything, keep learning.” It’s the part that says, “you don’t know what her/his life is like, have a little more compassion (or set up stronger boundaries)”.

It’s the part that refines you and encourages you to learn more, see more, do more; in the right balance, it prepares you for whatever calls you.

It doesn’t let you sink into the idea that you have it all figured out.

As long as we don’t allow doubt to cripple our growth and momentum, we can let it keep us human.

Cut Off Unhealthy Relationships

A few years ago, a then-coworker (and then-friend) told me bitterly that she was more valuable than me in any workplace. She was angrily vacating her role in the company and shooting out arrogance and indignation.

Thankfully, by this point I’d already made peace with self-doubt, so I didn’t let her projection make me spiral, as it would’ve just a few years prior. Instead, I let myself feel the pain of having a friend reveal their face, after sensing her hidden sentiments for months, and cut off the relationship.

Someone who gets a superiority boner from tearing you down is not a friend or an ally; they have no right to your time and no true insight into your worth.

The quality of your life is greatly affected by your ability to set up boundaries to protect your vision from people who see themselves as better than you,

from people who don’t believe in the validity or importance of your dream.

Saying that and knowing that, however, doesn’t make it any easier to actually cut off relationships, even unhealthy ones. Sometimes, we’re so intimately connected to the relationship that it’s hard to extricate ourselves. Sometimes, we hang on for longer than we should because we’re afraid of hurting someone.

But if you don’t put your own well-being first, no one else will respect it, either. Give yourself permission to step away from relationships that take away your energy or confidence, leaving you depleted or less-than. Give yourself permission to set boundaries with those that are too difficult to completely cut off. You and your vision are precious and worthy of only the best type of care, love, and support.

Create an Energy Toolbox

Putting yourself out there to create a life in high alignment with your sense of purpose takes courage, a deep knowledge of self, and reliable sources of support and energy.

It helps to remove the things that deplete your energy or sense-of-self, like unhealthy relationships, but you also need things that give you energy; tools, experiences, and people that help bring peace or calm or joy or love.

I call this an “Energy Toolbox”. It evolves and grows as you do, and is adaptable to context.

When I was in elementary school, my toolbox comprised math books (yup :)) and superhero cartoons. I was that 8 year-old who hugged her math books in the middle of anxiety. I was also that 8 year-old who sprinted to the couch to watch Batman (*ahem* and more so Batgirl) to feel purpose and joy.

Since then, it’s grown to include nurturing friendships, meaningful work, inspiring music, satirical tweets, videos of baby animals, and so much more. I’m always growing my list of calming/joyful activities, tools, and experiences, and it now features a sublist of tools that heal the roots of emotional traumas that contributed to stagnation, fear, and loads of physical pains (more on that here).

Having a full toolbox makes it easier to keep your energy high, thoughts positive, and resolve strong. With the right tools, any challenge, any goal, is manageable.

It’s the things we do outside our businesses that dictate how we show up in our work, and whether we have what we need to show up at all.

Keep doing your thing, incredible being. Protect your vision, cut off those depleting relationships, and get great sleep. :) I’ll see you on the other side of that fear.


Amparo I. Vazqwright

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I support heart-centered coaches, healers and content/product creators gain clarity on their soul-purpose while creating a sustainable, joyful life & biz.

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