Knowing The Bugis-Makassar Traditional Wedding Procession
Bugis-Makassar’s traditional wedding is one of the lengthy in its preparations and was unique when it comes to discussing how much money to be paid to women’s families.
When it follows the customary procession, the first thing that must be done to marry the Bugis-Makassar female is A’Jangang-jangang or Mammanu’-manu’ in which a man comes to a female parent to introduce himself and declare his intention to marry his daughter. It was not until the male family came to the woman’s parent’s house formally to present the seriousness of his child to groom their daughter. This process is called A’suro or Massuro.
After that, it is followed by Appa’nassa or Patenre Ada’ the process for determining the wedding day, dowry, and Uang Panai’. Uang Panai’ became one scary scourge for men who wanted to hire a woman from the Bugis-Makassar tribe. It’s not uncommon for a marriage proposal to be denied and love to be run aground in the middle, way because of this one. The thing is, cash is usually peaked too high by the women’s side of the family.
In colonial times, Dutchmen liked to marry the girl Bugis Makassar, so as to rule out the situation, the Kings of the land’s Bugis Makassar provided a condition of securing Uang Panai’ before marrying their noble maidens. Thus, the stockpile of Uang Panai’ is a tribute to the women’s family to be married. Besides, as a motivation for men to work even harder. Uang Panai’ itself was different from Mahar’s, and the Uang Panai’ was used for wedding purposes. So the money from the dividends is given when the proposal has been received or at the wedding date. Not only that, but there was also Sompa’ and Erang-erang. Sompa’ is a treasure not moving like houses, rice fields, gardens, and Erang-erang is accessories of marriage to be handed over to the women’s side.
At present, the monetary value is defined by such things as, heredity, educational level, economic status, physical condition, and popularity. The higher all such status, the higher the nominal rate given. As the age and consciousness of the predominance Islamic tribe’s Bugis-Makassar have been encouraged to facilitate marriage.
Remembering in the days of the prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), there was a very poor and eager marriage. Then the prophet Muhammad ordered to paint something that he could use as a dowry. This man then found an iron ring and he was later married by the prophet with only a dowry of an iron ring. This suggests that marriages in Islam are very simple while qualifying for marriage as there are bridegroom and bride candidates, there are guards who marry, there are witnesses, Mahar and Ijab qabul. The wedding feast in Islam itself is intended to inform the other Muslims that the couple has been valid as a married couple and thus remain free of slander. Not to brag. So with that in mind, at present, the reserve money may be negotiated by both parties to get the Shared approval without any intention of eliminating the tradition.
If it did, let go of the engagement process called A’bayuang. In this process, male families deliver traditional bands of rings and are pawed with betel-pepper leaves. Thereafter, the bride and groom take a steam bath commonly called A’barumbung or Mappessau.
The procession carried on by a born and inner cleansing of the bridegroom intended to spare the bride and groom from the peril in their later home ark. This process is named Appasili bunting similar to a siren on the traditional Javanese wedding procession. It is followed by A’bu’bu or Maccekko’ which is cutting the soft hair that is on the bride’s forehead to help trim or black trim on the forehead. The final sequence of Appasili bunting is the Appakanre bunting, the process of bribing the bride and groom both of the parents as a symbol that the parent’s responsibility to the child has been severed and transferred to the bride’s future husband.
The night before the marriage ceremony, there was an Akkarongtigi or Mappacci in the home of each bride. This process included a ritual of using a girlfriend’s leaf that was considered magical and represented purity in the hands of the bride and groom performed by those who were of good social status or who were found to be lasting and happy in their households.
The next day was the climax of the customary marriage ceremony by Bugis Makassar, either Assimorong or Menre’kawing or Akad. Then followed by Appabajikang bunting which is where the groom is escorted to the bride’s room. However, the door of the bride’s room was intentionally locked so that there would be a dialogue between the groom’s introduction and the bride’s doorkeeper. The dialogue will include permission to enter the bride’s room. Once allowed in, the bride and groom usually touch each other and kiss the hand of the bridegroom’s. This process is called Mappasikarawa.
The end of this customary marriage process is the Alleka bunting or Marola that takes place the day after Mappasikarawa. The bride was escorted by some members of the family to the home of the groom’s parents, bringing some gifts in return for the bridegroom. Only after this process has taken place will the bride and groom be declared legally.
