How to learn from a neglectful parent and to be a better (dad) parent because of it.

It’s easy to be selfish, it’s easy to listen to the voice inside your own head that retreats to a lonely, safe place when you are placed, unpredictably outside your comfort zone.

Generally, this is a result of your upbringing, how you were raised. It’s not a bad thing, but you don’t have to follow that same path if you don’t want!

Just because you may have had a parent or parents/guardians that weren’t there for you emotionally or physically, doesn’t mean that you are pre-destined to walk that same path.

I’m here to tell you a simple, warm, not cold, fact and truth, that you can break that cycle.

You can learn and draw from those negativities. You can be a better parent because of it.

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When your child asks if you want to play with them, regardless of how ridiculous it might seem that you would retreat from being an adult playing with children’s toys, take a second to actually think about the path you are setting yourself on. Do you want to be that disconnected parent?

If you are a father, do you really want to be that guy? Is it so ludicrous that your child wants to play with you?

Me, I won’t even give it a second thought. I’ll be straight down on the floor, zooming cars or whatever it is along with my little boy. I refuse to be disconnected. I know what that path looks like. I’ve walked down it as a child turning into a man.

I don’t like that path. I refuse to walk it.

Be that better parent.

Remember your inner child that longed for your parent to play with you and the rest, I promise, will be easy. It might take a few attempts to get the hang of it and I’m still learning, but it will get easier and you’ll have that emotional bond between you that will be cherished.