Affective Advice to Children

Urida Zidni
Sep 5, 2018 · 3 min read

Did you ever feel giving advice to the son, nephews or someone but they just ignore it?

Honestly, one of wonderful parts of my life is when officially to be a father. It has been pass it during around 2 years. So many great experience, and I will share to you one of my experience related how to make our advice breaking thought in the hearts.

Maybe some of the parents at this time, when the child behaves negatively, our term reflexively grumbles and makes a sentence with the advice. But, unfortunately, it will not be effective and the child will repeat the same thing later. So, let’s dive into the atmosphere and the way to draw advice for two different ages in the time of the prophet in the past. Hopefully it will be a lesson for every parent

First, at the age of child.

The children I mean here is from 0 till 13 years old. For this age, how to advise is when driving a vehicle on the journey or travel. Because in this atmosphere is very beautiful. Relaxing. A child tends to enjoy the driving atmosphere. Moreover, when the vehicle is an animal.

This is an expensive momentum that is often missed by parents. When together on a vehicle, it is a good time to include values for children. Unfortunately, in many case, when travel is often just a talk about without meaning. A happy and comfortable atmosphere is the right moment to give them advice. And this is one of the blunt causes of parental advice today. Because that advice often comes in an atmosphere full of anger and tension. If so, how can it penetrate the walls of the hearts of our children?

Second, at the age of teenagers.

In the source that I read, teenagers here aged 13–21 years. At this age the best way to give advice is to touch his shoulder. A physical contact that always provides comfort and closeness for children. Especially teenagers or adults who feel more distant from their parents because they feel they have grown up. Proximity and comfort is very expensive. And this is the secret key to the advice that is very sharp and precise, able to penetrate even the steepest corals.

Talk about this, I have experience that I can share. I have a teenager nephew, I’m not so close actually. He lives in a dorm far from parents. And after being checked, it turned out that he had never attended school, because he addict with the games. And my sister took the initiative to bring it to a psychiatrist. After an interview that took more than 5 hours, the child did not want to tell what he had experienced. Long story short, I intend to try to take him on a trip in a vehicle and try to make physical contact. Apparently I can get information about the root of the problem that the school that recommend from her parent is not suitable with her want. Even though, I’m not so close enough and he is very introvert.

Urida Zidni

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