Realise The New You.

Urvashi Singh
Nov 3 · 4 min read
Photo by Aziz Acharki on Unsplash

I have a friend who is migrating to another country with her husband. After her last day at work, I sent her a message. It said, “It was so amazing to see you transform from a girl next door to an ever-smiling diva.” Though she will be missed a lot, I am so happy for her. What makes my heart fly along with thousands of sky lanterns is the huge transition she is bringing to her life. And every nerve in me is feeling happy for her. This was what she had wanted from her life. This was what she had told me once when she had confided in me about her plans for future. Her passionate efforts finally brought fruits for her.

Every story of major life transformation makes my wings even stronger. The idea seems to be so exciting, and easy as well, when seen from a distance. But when you are totally in for it, investing your time, money and intentions too in it, it is a lot of work. But when you do so, you know you are preparing yourself for something unimaginably grand.

And the good part is there is a lot of inspiration to get motivated from, all around the world. I see people migrating to a different continent, not just a different country. People putting their life on wheels, exploring the world and themselves too all on their own. It’s just not traveling. I get goosebumps when I read about people like Ms. Deepa Malik from India, who has won medals for our country in Paralympics, and has been bestowed with numerous other awards. The sportswoman got paralyzed waist down in her early 30s and started her sports career at the age of 36. She had an option to fall into depression like usually people do, but she chose the brighter path. Each time I come across a story like this, my hair fly with an invisible bout of air, and I see the reflection of sparkles in my eyes.

Leaving the comforts of settled life to experience the apprehensions of a new life may not seem a wise thing to do, because there is always risk involved in it. I mean, when I put myself in my friend’s shoes, I get uncomfortable with the idea. Flying to a new country where you know no-one but a few friends, building your own nest there literally picking and placing every strand, taking care of the finances, and what not. I am sure she has given a thought to everything and has a plan in process, but still, uneasiness can’t be done away with.

But then, my mind gets thumped with the reality. There is just one life that we get. Just one.

Decades later, someday when I would be on my deathbed, would there be things I regret not doing? Would there be decisions I regret not making? Would there still be a life I regret not living?

I understand the courage needed to change your life for the better is huge. But I still find it lesser than the heavy load of regret that we may reasonably develop in the last few years of our lives.

Tony Robbins, in his book, Awaken the Giant Within, has marveled on the beliefs we associate our happiness and pain with. He says, associate the feelings of happiness, fulfillment, and excitement with the actions that would drive you further in life. Because we repeat what we feel excited about. And relate a lot of pain and grief with the things you know are not good for you. This will keep you from acting in the same way.

I have done the same. For me, transformation means happiness, success, and freedom. And staying constant means fear, regret, and wound. This fear works as a catalyst in my ordinary life, amplifying the speed of the reaction going on inside me, which would culminate into something extraordinary. I believe that about myself, and my life.

There are many ways in which we can start bringing those little changes in our life, which would reap a great harvest.

  1. Introducing new behavioral patterns. Learning to be calm.
  2. Be more giving. Sharing our resources with the needy.
  3. Traveling.
  4. Meditation and Yoga, if that suits you. Or else, workouts.
  5. Migrating to a different city, country or continent, depending upon your circumstances and levels of courage.
  6. Working relentlessly towards achieving something great. Saying yes to your dreams.
  7. Creating your style, trying something new, changing your wardrobe.
  8. Eating well. Eating right.
  9. Journaling.
  10. Being grateful.

If I ever feel that there is lack of resources, or nothing is favouring me, or something that brings me down, I remember, I am my biggest resource. The way You are Yours. We all are our biggest resources.

It is so exciting to meet a new person each time you look at the mirror. Someone whom you created, solely. Someone who is not perfect, still almost matches with the picture of you that you had visualized over and over with open eyes. That person, that life is right inside you, waiting to be revealed. So, what are you waiting for?

Realise the new You.

Urvashi Singh

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Teacher since a decade, Writer since my childhood, Reader since I touched books,Naive traveller exploring life and more. E-mail — urvashi03nov@gmail.com

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