Boost Interaction Game- Be Interested

Usama Arbakan
Nov 8 · 3 min read

“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.” — Dale Carnegie

I am all ears toward your conversation

Usama Arbakan wants people to talk about him. I am Usama Arbakan. Don’t you think that we appreciate people in our life that ask us:

Ask People About Their Lives

· How was your day?

· What special did you do today?

· What are your plans for this weekend?

· Is everything going perfect regarding your studies?

These are small talks but it can show your level of interest towards someone or something. If you like some car, you look closely and try to inquire about the price and other relevant things regarding that car. These small talks can make you welcome in any circle.

Ask People about their Life

Project Work

As per my assignment, I tried to show my interest in other lives. I texted my friends and tried to communicate with people during lunch in the hostel mess. It did not take a long to make them talk. A simple hello lead to a few minutes of conversation. I asked my university fellows about their mids and said simple Hi to some other mates.

Simple Hi can lead to a Few Minutes Conversation

Learned Lesson- In the given content from the book, it is clearly stated that if you want people to appreciate you or accept you, the audience must be given respect and importance.

While selling the J&J products, the character of the reading landed a successful order just by saying Hello to the Soda boy and the salesperson. He used to talk to these people although they were not relevant to his job.

Soda Boy was Impressed with his Friendly Behavior

I noticed that the very next day, same university fellows sat next to me in the mess and he started inquiring about my CSS preparation and my subject's preferences. If I showed my interest in his life, in return, he was interested in my life like what I have to offer and what I want to deliver.

Real-Life Implementation

If we want people to listen to our goals and motives, first of all, appreciate them. A simple sentence about their outfit or appearance can make you interesting. You see here, you showed interest and in return, they are finding you interesting.

Appreciate Others

If someone shares his story, be a good listener. If you want to make new friends, ask for their opinion and respect their ideas. Be genuinely interested so people can have your back in hard times. The showman was successful as he always appreciated his audience who came to see his show. Likewise, people want to listen and they want you to accept their ideas.

Give them what they want and you will have what you want.

Appreciate their Ideas

Final Verdict

Do you want to talk about yourself? It’s natural and we all want the same. But, if you want them to listen to you, first, listen to them.

Conclusion
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