…d these codes inform our subjective definitions of what is “right” and “wrong” or “good” and “bad.” When others’ evaluation of our actions is at odds with our own sense of self, and our rationality or “goodness” is challenged, it can be a very painful experience. In order to exist in this world and be moderately happy, most of us must believe that we are “good” people. And that what we are doing is “right.” Men in particular are taught to believe that we should always have the right answers and be in control. When our actions are questioned, it might feel like our entire identity is at stake.
…old a culture where this kind of abuse grows. We are all human, and, as such, we are all imperfect. But let us not allow ourselves to be complacent in our imperfection, leaning on the tightly held belief that we are not “bad” guys; but one of the “good” men. Instead, let us always ask ourselves what it takes to be better men… and act accordingly.