This morning, while I was studying for my Logic class and since I was feeling fine I thought of writing myself a list of things to keep in mind next time I start to feel overwhelmed by everything around me. It served as an excuse to avoid studying, anyway.
- You don't know what is going to happen. You despise pseudosciences so you might as well admit that you cannot tell the future. Stop pretending that you know that you're destined to fail if you openly claim that the sole idea of ‘destiny’ is ridiculous and disgusting.
- Remember how good it feels when you are calm. See how differently your thoughts flow when you find yourself in a clear-thinking oasis. Get rid of your depression and anxiety and then try and refute your own downer thoughts.
- Don't compare yourself with others. The reason why successful people actually succeed is because they stay loyal to their own goals. After you get rid of whatever is clouding your thoughts set some goals and start achieving them. Don’t be afraid of revising and changing them if you feel like it. Try not to change them often or you could be missing the point of having them in the first place.
«Ironically, successful people tend to fail a lot more than unsuccessful people. They also tend to ask a lot more questions.»
- You like numbers and statistics, right? The chances of you being alone for the rest of your life are so low that it’s even laughable to point them out. As long as you don’t think of meeting that special someone every single day then most probably when you're least expecting it Miss Awesome will make her entrance.
- Get some fresh air. I know you cried in public many times and the fact that people don't seem to care freaks you out. Keep in mind that most of them are as afraid as you are of talking to strangers and they don’t even have a clue of what to say to some guy feeling bad. On the other hand, when you go so deep inside your head not even a rescue team would be able to get you out so… Get out of the house.
- Whenever you think people hate you, they don’t. Do the test: engage yourself in a conversation and see what happens. Oh you're too afraid! Then maybe is not that they hate you but rather that you're using this as an excuse to avoid the issue.
- People most of the time are simply stupid. Even if you'd like to talk about genetics, technology, philosophy or the universe all the time and people can't follow what you're saying, it doesn't mean you're not smart, it means they just don't care (or just don’t have the brains to do so). While you're around other philosophy students do the the test of randomly bringing out the topics of your interest but looking for nothing but random hallway conversations. I bet you're going to be surprised.
- Even if the internet feels like a safe place, that’s not always the case. Let’s admit it: internet can be a hell of a time waster. Try using more of the time spent wandering online reading a book or doing something else.
- Don't hurt yourself. Instead of inducing any harm to yourself try doing something nice or getting something you'd like to eat. Be calm.
- It’s okay to be angry with someone else than yourself. Even when you're tempted to blame yourself for everything that happens to you (and even if in good measure you could be held responsible for part of it) just remember that a lot of things escape your control and that it’s okay to be angry with someone else. Just be careful, though:
“Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate… to suffering”
- Don’t kill yourself. Just because someone else would be sad if you died is a pretty bad reason for living. It is true that being born was never your choice but since you are alive —the harm is already done, if you will—, try to make the best of it. You will die soon enough and right before that you'll realize you didn't have enough time.
- Smile. Science says that even when you're not feeling well, you should smile. So try smiling, it will feel good.
Post taken from MotionCity. Originally posted on May 15, 2010.