My heart aches. For a year I ran a group called Daughters and Mothers, inspired by friends with complicated relationships with their mothers and also inspired by my own connection to my daughter. Of course I ended up exploring my relationship with my mother too who I felt I didn’t know well enough before she died. She was so private, so quiet. And I learned that all daughter and mother relationships are complex. I admire you for really seeing your mother as a person and a woman and a champion for who she is. Thank you for your moving story.