Is it Worth Your Time? 6 Ways to Tell How
Life gets busy. With households requiring two incomes to make ends meet, kids’ activities, social lives, school, housework and more demanding our time and attention, making time for it all can be a challenge. We all have responsibilities and expectations on us and trying to figure out what it is that should take precedence can sometimes be difficult prioritize. Here’s a list of 6 ways to help you determine whether what you’re putting your time (and energy) into is making your feel fulfilled or if you need to shift your focus.
1. What does it make you feel when your making the decision? We are often encouraged to ignore what we’re feeling or how a situation makes us feel. We’re told to get over it and quit being too sensitive, but paying attention to how you’re feeling when your making the decision whether an activity or task should take priority over another will help you determine if it is something you should be spending your time and energy on. If you’re feeling anxious and unsettled or unhappy with something that you’re doing, whatever the activity is, a change needs to be made. We won’t always love what we’re doing, but we should be able to be at peace with making the decision to all the task to take priority over other tasks as the very least.
2. What are you feeling when your doing the activity? Many of us probably aren’t going to love our jobs all the times and there are times that we don’t want to sit at the rainy soccer field with our kids, but we make the choice to stick it out because, overall, the task or activity is worth it in the long run. Pay close attention, though, to how often you’re feeling during activities that you’re unsure should have your time and attention. Are you anxious or worked up after hanging out with a particular group of people or doing an activity? Just as above, pay close attention to how your feel when you’ve committed to the activity as well as during and after.
3. Do you have support? Is this a task that you’re going to be doing alone? Are you ok with that? Support is huge in all aspects of our lives and sometimes we take on more than we should, placing more expectations on ourselves without having a proper support system. If taking you’re children to soccer is running your ragged, do you have a friend that could help you out and take them once a week or can your spouse rearrange their work schedule to help remove some of the stress on you. Sometimes just finding the courage to ask for help can make all the difference. Can’t find the support you need? You may need to reprioritize your schedule and start saying no. It may even be as simple as knowing you can only commit to part of what is being asked of you, so just make sure you are clear if you need to redefine the parameters of what you have committed to, making sure the support you need is in place.
4. What are you giving up now, in a year, two years? What are you gaining? When we commit to doing certain things, we sometimes don’t look to see if there will be a benefit or repercussion to the commitment. Running yourself ragged with activities and commitments that won’t allow you to meet other goals and objectives down the line isn’t good for anyone.
5. Is there something you’d rather be doing? This is a tricky one. There are always certain jobs where we wish we were able to be doing something else. We don’t always like to be having to do the dishes. Nor do we necessarily want to get up and go to work each morning, but if we are consciously and consistently choosing an activity where we receive absolutely nothing positive in return, we may want to rethink what we are doing. Do you need to look into a new work environment, or is it as simple as changing up your before work routine? Try asking yourself exactly what it is that you would rather be doing? That will tell you just how in depth this want of needing to do something else really is.
6. Do you feel obligated? We all have those people (and situations) in our lives that make everything feel like we are completely obligated to complete certain tasks. Many times when we feel obligated to complete a task, see a person or fulfill a commitment it isn’t that we are doing it for ourselves but we are trying to please someone. Take a look at the time when you feel obligated. Sometimes we will have true obligations to others which require us to take part and complete something to better everyone (family obligations are sometimes an example of this), but often times, we feel obligated to a situation because we feel guilty for something. Guilt will often make us feel obligation to those around us. It will make us feel stuck in situations that we really don’t need to have any responsibility. Take a close look at why you feel obligated to certain people and situations, this will help you to clarify and take control of the situations you have the opportunity to let go of and become a better you!
Taking responsibility for your life and the choices you make in it by being able to prioritize where to spend your time and energy can increase the satisfaction and happiness in your life enormously. Don’t hesitate to do what you need to become the best you possible. Learn to find what is really important in your life and live by those things. The sooner you are able to pinpoint how to make yourself happier, the soon you will see your life start to transform into the beautiful happiness you deserve!