The Hidden Way You’re Hurting Yourself

One of the most hurtful acts you can do to yourself is continually ignoring and putting off dealing with the things in your life that cause you pain, misery and suffering.

Some of you are in so much pain and struggle that you’ve learned to cope with it by numbing yourself to the discomfort or pretending that it doesn’t even exist.

Imagine having a pile of garbage in the middle of your living room and you live around it everyday. You simply build your life around it. And you go about your day to day activities and responsibilities as though it’s not even there.

You smell it.
You see it.
You know it’s there.
And it’s taking up a lot of room.

But you do nothing about it.

And you tell yourself:

“I will get around to cleaning that up next week/month/year.”

“It’s not THAT bad of an eyesore and stench.”

“I don’t have the money right now to get rid of that garbage in my living room.”

“It’s a bad time for me to clean that up.”

“I am so used to having that garbage in my life, I wouldn’t know what it’s like without it.”

“I have to check in with my spouse/partner/accountant/dog/cat to get their approval to see if I can get get rid of that garbage.”

You might laugh at the analogy. But I have met MANY people in my coaching work that are doing just that.

Substitute the garbage (for your mental & emotional baggage) in your living room (your mind & body) and it really represents:

Toxic, stagnant and unhealthy relationships.
Heartbreak.
Heartache.
Loneliness.
Lack of self love.
Your unmet goals and dreams.
Not earning the income you know you deserve.
A Dead-end job or career.
Your deepest fears.
Your limiting beliefs that have you think and feel that you’re worthless, undeserving and not good enough.
Unresolved past traumas.
Disappointments.
Resentment, unforgiveness and bitterness toward others.
The continual weight gain that you do nothing about.
Health problems you don’t take care of.

The list could go on and on…

The ‘garbage’ that is within you and that you’ve built your life around sucks the life out of you everyday.

It’s a slow death.

And you’re probably so used to it that you think it’s normal to live your life this way.

Well I’m here to tell you that it isn’t normal. And you don’t have to live that way anymore.

None of that ‘garbage’ is YOU. And it doesn’t have to take up anymore space or energy within you unless you choose for it to continue to.

It’s up to YOU to change. And to fully commit to that process.

Nobody can do the work FOR you.

Not me.
God.
“The Universe.”
Or another coach.
Healer.
Counsellor.
Self help book.
Therapist.
Personal trainer.
Lawyer.
Doctor.
Or pill.

You have to WANT your suffering to end BAD enough to get you out of your current circumstances that you’re in and what you’ve chosen to hold on to.

And if you don’t want to commit to doing the work. Or you want to keep putting it off, please know that you’re continuously pushing away the relationship, life and desired outcomes you deep down want and have wanted for so long…

So if that’s the case and you’re not ready or willing to change, then I invite you to walk up to your mirror RIGHT NOW and tell yourself:

“[INSERT YOUR NAME HERE] — this is as GOOD as it gets.”

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