Dating Other People Is a Stupid Concept

I don’t have time for that nonsense. I won’t do it.

Vanessa Torre
May 26 · 4 min read
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Seeing other people means one thing: I’m not sure about you so I am keeping my options open.

That tastes horrible.

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I will not sit my ass in a dugout and watch other players take their turn a bat. I’ll go find another ball club to play for.

The only real relationship I’ve had since I’ve been divorced that ever made any sense to me was actually a long distance relationship. He made it easy to focus on just him.

For me, dating someone and needing space does not mean filling that space with other people.

If you need space from one person in particular and choose to fill that space with other people, it’s complete bullshit. You don’t need space. You need to not be with that person you need space from. Be a wholehearted human being and just cut them loose.

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Dating one person at a time takes courage. Putting all of your eggs in one basket is a risky endeavor. It leaves you open to heartache and pain. I have no problem with that.

Part of it comes from being very comfortable by myself. If I put all of my eggs in one basket and a few months later it goes south, I’ll still be okay. Back to square one. Me. I’m good with me.


Vanessa Torre

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Going through life like a flaming pinball. Nerd, music lover, horrible violin player. No, I won’t stop taking pictures of my drinks. vanessaltorre@gmail.com