For the women who grow wilder with every passing day.

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We’re no longer young and naive. We’ve made most of the mistakes we’re going to make in our lives and we don’t care about the ones left to make. They won’t rattle our cage because we already gave up the cage.

Money no longer matters to us. We have what we need and we’ve built a life that doesn’t require us to depend on anyone but ourselves. We know we won’t let us down.

The ideas other people call crazy keep coming. They don’t understand. We buy trucks and RVs. We quit our jobs. …

There is no inherently superior parent in this game.

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Last week, I was having a conversation with a friend of mine who is a law enforcement officer. He responded to a call about a boy on a bike that was hit by a woman in a car turning out of a parking lot. It happened during pick up and drop off for a busy school.

As is often the case, there were conflicting stories between the driver and the boy’s mom. The driver, who went into the school to let them know what happened, said the boy darted in front of her while she was already moving.

The mom said her son would never do that. Only the bike was hit, the boy was not injured, and there was no damage to the vehicle or bike. …

Their attention doesn’t determine our value.

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I’ve started to see a common trend in relationship articles and advice columns. There seems to be an overwhelming amount of information out there about how to make ourselves more attractive to people.

These articles suggest dozens of ways for us to be more charming, alluring, intriguing, mysterious, etc. If we can only tap into these superpowers, the flood gates will open and people will flock to us.

My concern is with how many of these methods of attraction are a matter of tapping into our own, already existent strengths, and how much is creating a version of us that is most universally palatable to the highest number of people possible? …


Vanessa Torre

Flaming pinball, nerd, music lover, wine snob, horrible violin player. No, I won’t stop taking pictures of my drinks. vanessaltorre@gmail.com IG: vanessaltorre

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