Upon reading your argument that asylums were scrapped for being too harsh, i agreed with that (although your tone was harsh anyway). But this person is suffering the loss of the brother she once knew. This isn’t the place for insults or politcs. Everyone has been supportive and empathetic even though they don’t all agree with her suggestions. Passive aggression is not the way to treat someone in a situation like this. She is desperate, she is confused and wants to help her brother. Please. You are writing to another human being. Remember that.