“ If you let a man think what he is doing is liked/acceptable, he is going to continue doing it.” THAT is victim blaming. If I do X, he is going to do Y.
If I “let him think” — how can I in any way control his thoughts?
Privilege is going through life not having to police or question ones actions. Blaming someone for being harassed based on what they “let people think”, wear, what they do or do not say, and where they live (see your post on living in the city below) is victim blaming.