It’s all about your status

We all are used to sharing our lives with the public through our social networks but every now and then I wonder how far things are going to get. The world’s biggest network is introducing a new feature that helps people to find out even more about you in an instant. And of course everyone can decide if certain areas of their private lives should rather remain untouched. But is that even possible after all?

Good-bye privacy: Facebook is introducing a new button that helps you find out the relationship status of your friends. Even though I do like to share some private things on facebook sometimes, these news got me slightly confused. Why is it so important to share your relationship status with everyone in the world? Do people really care THAT much who is or is not sleeping next to you? And what does it even say about you if people find out that you are married, in a long-term relationship or single ever since you signed up for facebook quite a while ago?

Maybe I am a much more private person than I’ve been admitting so far. I don’t like it if people put a lable on me just because they get a hint of my current relationship status. I don’t like to be defined as a person by the fact if I’m dating somebody or not. If you really care that much you can ask me in a private message but I would never give that information away via a share button. And by the way in my opinion it is very impolite to ask a woman these kind of things if you are just starting to get to know her!

Let me speak from experience:

When I tell someone I’m in a relationship: Guys sometimes seem to start acting weird the minute they get to know that, like as if I made them some sort of hopes by just being nice to them. But what is wrong to be nice to people or to get caught up in a good talk even if you are not available for other things besides that?

When I tell someone I’m single, people start thinking that they can have a free pass for everything. But it’s not that simple. Being single doesn’t mean you are in a desperate need for a partner, sometimes it happens by choice. Not everyone actually wants to be in a relationship all the time.

I just want to give you a little something to think about, in the end it is your choice only what you are willing to share with the world.

So, be careful of how you define people by their relationship status, the truth might be something very different from what you’ve been expecting. And think about what to share with the whole world, because (let me quote Emma Watson here):

“The less you reveal, the more people can wonder…”

Originally published at on May 19, 2014.

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