Disappearing friends is one of the most painful aspects. One can not imagine the depths of disconnect with the world at large after the loss of a partner. When friends return back to “ordinary life” and start ignoring what happened, the anguish is multiplied. I have heard it explained in many ways, one of which is that the widowed person is a symbol of what can go badly in life. Imagine, for a moment, the vantage point of said widowed who gave everything he or she could and still lost almost everything. Every additional heartfelt connection is critical at this fragile “post” time. Show up for them, a lot of life is like that. Thankfully, courageous new emotionally deep friends will come to the fore.