Respectfully written since I like the perspective and grew up in the 1980s. But this is what’s F-ed up in young men’s lives. Women demand equality in all things which they rightly deserve, other than biological differences, and yet…the onus still remains on the guy to be this knight in shining armor and do the asking and all the planning that goes into it, so the night is just perfect. Don’t get me wrong I relish the chance to do so myself. But can you see where guys are getting kind confused with this whole “women are totally capable and independent” but you still have to do the chasing, asking, make the first kiss move? Don’t even get me started on the fears/concerns about the potential for white, patriarchy, rape culture claims if the guy reads body language wrong. I see it here in Shanghai, China. Girls are naturally inclined to think about marriage after the first 2–3 dates due to parental pressures. And with it the expectations, in short order, for a new house, new car, vacation 2x a year to a place their friends will envy, handbags, jewelry, etc. So guys say “screw it” and play basketball, computer games and go out drinking with guy friends. For the young bucks, the equation doesn’t equal out so much anymore so if they go out, they look for meaningless hookups with a quick ecstasy hit with no burdens. I am not saying it is right since I have been the beneficiary of two incredible long term relationships, but I am not the same generation as these poor saps.
