Insecurity that stems from low self-esteem which begets lack of self-confidence is the root of the Big J. Jealousy. So not only does the partner have to keep convincing her of her own worth, he will at some point have to defend his own innocence. Because she will hold him guilty until proven innocent in her Court of Insecurity.
And once that little snowball starts rolling it only gains momentum. Until even the simplest of exchanges she observes him having with another female — or any of his solo journeys to where a (prettier/smarter/hotter) female might be — is grounds for accusation.
Insofar as we attract more of what we put out, should she turn out to be correct in her suspicions that just could be the Pandora’s Box needed to snap open for her own growth. While we want to avoid causing another human’s suffering it’s we who plant the seeds of our own suffering and must bear its fruits. Tough love maybe. But real love doesn’t gloss things over but faces them at their suckiest.
