Vienna De Vega
Jul 22, 2017 · 1 min read

Kitten, there’s no question that women in general are having to deal with the disconnect that has separated us from our birthright of giving ourselves deep physical pleasure. This subject was similarly discussed on Medium recently by Lacey Divine in her post, Own your orgasms ladies. However, your piece raises a couple of points. First,while fearless fingering is essential for restoring that connection, I don’t agree that toys are totally unnecessary — certainly not if overused to the point of numbing us out to true feeling as with male porn addiction eradicating erections during intimacy. Toys can be extremely helpful in reaching the G-spot where fingers alone might not be able to reach during self-pleasuring for instance. Which brings me to my other point.

Notice I wrote “self-pleasuring” and not “masturbation.” It’s totally understandable that women have difficulty claiming their own sexuality when the word that most defines it is freighted with shame and therefore guilt. Note to self: subject for upcoming post.

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Vienna De Vega

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Scorpio moon woman. Resident of the 8th zodiac house of sex, lust and intimacy. Venture with me down the erotic highway of my mind.