Not really trying to play analyst here, Emma Lindsay, but this kinda contradicts your prior comment about having sufficient self-love to attract a potential partner. I tend to feel much the same in that I do love myself and consider myself as inherently lovable.
Self-love is a spiritual thing, an inside out relationship with the rest of humanity that comes from deeper knowledge of the Greater Self within one’s conscious. It’s beyond the ego — or better said, engages an aspect of the ego that is not dependent upon how others relate to us to feel wholeness and happiness.
So if a particular group has you feeling like an outlier, taking a deeper look at the Self-love quotient may be in order. That group just may not be ready for what you have to offer or is somehow at odds with it.
Overall a great article, with much to chew on.