So much to chew on here, Aram Rasa Taghavi. Especially one point. You comment early on:
“Romantic love is a new concept that’s recently changed why we marry in the first place, I guess we call this evolution and progress.”
This immediately brought to mind the concepts put forth by psychotherapist, and couples counselor Esther Perel, in her bestselling book, Mating in Captivity. In her remarkable TED talk, she illuminates the schizy arena that modern marriage has become. Where once marriage was almost exclusively about annexing money and property, as you note, today the freight is far heavier.
Though money, property and bearing descendants remain the foundation, Perel observes that now the spouse/partner must also be soulmate, best friend and erotic sex partner. To paraphrase her, we want security and sensuality, predictability and passion, all from the same person.
Check out Perel’s TED Talk, “Rethinking Infidelity.”
Thank you Aram, for your own eye opening work.
