This fishy exchange turned up in my Facebook feed awhile back. It’s from a talk on YouTube by Rabbi Dr. Abraham Twerski, “True Love Explained.” What, I wonder, would the exchange have been like had the young man, when asked why he was eating the fish, had more accurately and honestly answered, “Because I love the taste of fish.” Except most of us don’t think or talk like that.
For one thing, he would have admitted at the get-go that it was all about him and not the fish.
For another, English doesn’t separate one type of love from another. I love fish can be about loving the species and doing everything I can to prevent that fish from becoming endangered/extinct. Or it can be about I love chowing down on clam chowder.
Love may be what really runs our universe. But it’s up to us to figure out how we really run love.