Tips for Non-Bengali Men to Adjust in a Bengali Family
Sometimes, the grass looks green on the other side. The same happens when it comes to holy matrimony, when a person of one faith to marry someone belonging to another one. Adding to the confusion, Hindi cinema often shows such stories in a positive light. Are you a non-Bengali male deeply in love with a sweet Bengali balika? How will you adjust with her badralok once the knot is tied in Bengali matrimony ? Read on for some common sense tips like knowing about Rabindrasangeet, fish making skills, discussing current topics or poetry.
Lets cast away the mythicstories
Is the bong belle a prized catch? Probably yes if she is intelligent, artistic and has a five-figure salary to match- Well done, now that she has fallen for you too. Which means, your English may be better and you are able to say poetic things about her kajal rimmed eyes every evening.
As a non-Bengali, you will have a cool mother-in-law. Well, this myth is true. Badraloklive in an open culture and welcome others warmly. She will not be a monster-in-law. Therefore, you can safely let her come home for a week without any tension or break in the relationship. If you learn how to cook fish, you have made a great start to loving the Bong family. If your mother-in-law comes from the uccho-moddhobitto type, she may expect you to sing well. Learn their songs…. And, you have already stolen their hearts too!
Bengalis are not loud (if, you are a Punjabi hot-blooded male) from New Delhi who has met his match in Chitranjan Park. Your wife’s family is quiet and will not have loud, boisterous fun during meals. Bengalis love the Punjabi cuisine but not the noisy celebrations that accompany it daily. You will need to curb your enthusiasm in front of the Bengali folks.
Will you be expected to learn a little Bengali? Yep, it is better to learn a few sentences unless you want to be a butt of their secretive jokes. Explaining a little about your language too will be useful.
Before marriage Bengali girls fight for their men!
You may not realize that if you love a Bengali girl, she will fight fiercely with her parents to get married to a man of her choice-of another community. She may look docile and sweet but she can turn into a ferocious Durga Ma to get her way and also after marriage. Therefore, she earns her respect from her parents and husband. If you have been married to her without knowing how hard she has fought, make sure that you do as she says when you step into the house. Once her parents know that you are not harmful to their daughter, they will shower more than just their blessings!
PS: If a potential UP bride marries a tree first then what is wrong with a Bengali girl who has a non Bengali spouse to learn how to make fish and recite poetry! It is a reasonable deal!
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