I did not know I had a lot of pain ‘pushed down’ until it came up. Like projectile vomit, it was a lot and it felt uncomfortable. In the beginning of the reframing session, I felt out of control and I could barely speak for a few minutes. Once the session was over, the relief afterwards, was indescribable. It was like a heavy weight had been taken from my shoulders after many years.
I’ve seen a few counsellors over the years. I’ve learned at least one or two key strategies to cope with life stressors. The mental health professional I see currently, makes me feel supported, understood and listened to. …
Growing up, I experienced mixed signals of encouragement and hypercriticism. For anybody in this environment, it can be really confusing. Eventually, I learned the importance of constructive feedback.
A place that is supportive, loving, embraces mistakes and helps one believe in themselves. We know from research, these environments do wonders for one’s mental, cognitive and emotional health.
A place that focuses on minor mistakes, overbearing, does not embrace change and may make one feel they can’t do anything right. Again, these kind of environments wreak havoc on one’s overall health. Especially long-term exposure over a lifetime.
On one hand, I felt supported. On the other hand, I felt like I couldn’t do anything right. Taking on a new perspective was weird, strange and looked down upon. Unfortunately, this weighed heavily on my confidence and most aspects in life. …
In 2018, I decided that it was time to combine my passion of mental health with my hobby of writing. I began The Tiny Healer as a way to raise awareness of mental health and to share my journey of self development.
In 2019, I stumbled across a Medium article. It was a topic on self development, and I became intrigued in the platform.
That night, I read multiple articles and instantly signed up to become a member. Reading other writers’ experiences of earning money online, doing something they loved, made me crave that for myself.
Eventually, I got there. But not in the way you might think. …
Although I enjoyed watching vlogs of people’s lives and how they navigate their daily routine, I did not anticipate what life would be like in my 20s.
I saw people years ahead of me and felt inspired by their accomplishments, independence and confidence. As years went by, the veil fell away. The people around me were just, that. People. Fellow humans trying to get by.
And then my twenties came around. By age 23, I did not feel accomplished or confident. I had my independence but it wasn’t enough.
A few years later, and here I am, writing to all of you. …
You’re not sleeping well.
You wake up and do the bare minimum to survive.
At work, you’re just going through the motions. Smiling with tired eyes.
You get home and you can’t wait to get to bed.
Not before you berate yourself for not cleaning the house. Again.
Rinse and repeat.
Our brains love order and organisation. So it can be overwhelming when we are faced with piles high of clutter every day.
A national survey was conducted regarding clutter in Australian homes.
21% of respondents agreed that clutter made them feel anxious.
A total of 42% of respondents said clutter made them feel either anxious, guilty or depressed. …
2020 has become an unprecedented year of fear, change and loss with the current COVID-19 pandemic. People have lost jobs or lost a loved one amongst other difficult adjustments.
It is important that we do our best to look after ourselves and our minds during this time. After all, if we aren’t healthy mentally or physically, it becomes impossible to care for ourselves and those we love.
Here are 10 grounding techniques for you to try whether you’re at home in lockdown, or still working in an essential services job.
Remind yourself that we all have good and bad days. It would be abnormal to be happy-go-lucky 24/7. …
We’ve all been betrayed before. Sometimes it’s not the act itself that causes problems, but the ripple effect in the days, months and even years after.
The shift in reality is in full swing.
The self-doubt kicks in.
What did I believe before?
How do I remove myself and separate myself from this web of lies?
Here are 10 to let go of betrayal.*
We can never control other people’s actions. Only our reactions to the things they do.
While my mind and body was in shock, I knew it was time to take action. Drastic action. I went into robotic mode. I held it together and found a source of stable income. …
Growing up, I often felt my world was constantly out of control. As far back as I could remember, I was in and out of hospital.
My mum had given birth to an extremely premature baby, at just 26 weeks, my chances of survival were low. Not to mention the health implications that would came later. Luckily, after 2 months I was able to go home.
My parents and I would attend regular check-ups for general health as well as asthma.
By age 9, I had been admitted to hospital for long stays multiple times. Mainly for asthma attacks and pneumonia. On a few occasions, I’d be taken to hospital in the ambulance because my airways would close up so quickly. …
The TV was blaring sounds of terror and panic. The Twin Towers had collapsed. I saw people jumping from the top floors, falling to their death. I heard screams and watched people run.
For a young girl in Australia, I couldn’t fathom this happening somewhere in the world. It seemed unreal at the time.
Following on from September 11 however, I became fearful of our plane being hijacked. I was afraid to die in such a way. I didn’t want to jump from a building. I already knew I’d be too scared to jump.
A few years later, my parents announced that we were going overseas. Our first flight abroad as a family. The fear creeped back into my thoughts of the plane crashing. …
Austrian neurologist and forefather of psychoanalysis, Sigmund Freud believed dreams could reveal a person’s deepest unconscious wishes and desires.
While I was studying Art Therapy, I learned about how dreams can be useful for therapy. I began remembering nightmares I used to have as a child. They’d replay in my head with such clarity. I brushed them off, only to revisit them later with my psychologist.
From then on, I kept a dream journal beside my bed in the months that followed. I became engrossed in what I dreamt and how it could inform my own actions, thoughts and behaviour. One day, I was telling my best friend about a strange dream I had (unrelated to trauma). She mentioned dreammoods.com — a website with a collection of dream meanings for those who are curious. Keep in mind that although the site does come from a psychological and Freudian perspective, take it with a grain of salt. …