According to an article published by Funders & Founders in 2013, it is estimated that we interact with around 80,000 people in our lifetime. However, this number is a bit arbitrary because of how many variables that are involved in determining this number.
My parents were telling me that they were at the mall the other night and happened to run into a couple that they knew 25 years ago back when my dad was finishing up grad school up in New Hampshire. The four of them lived together for two years in a small apartment until graduation. After graduation, my parents stayed in New Hampshire while the couple moved somewhere far away because of job location. And although phone numbers were exchanged, my parents lost touch with the couple because at the time, the Internet wasn’t as widely used as it is today and so phone numbers on pieces of paper and landlines served as the only outlet for keeping in touch. Until a couple of days ago, my parents had lost hope of ever reconnecting with the couple that they had once considered their best friends during their early years in America.
I’ve began to understand that throughout life, there will be people who will fade in and out. Some people who fade out will fade out naturally. There is no specific reason for this other than simply just losing touch. I remember in high school I wrote in everyone’s yearbook, “make sure to stay in touch after high school!” However, the reality is that I moved away after high school and stayed in touch with maybe three or four people. The same thing will most likely happen after college graduation as well. I’ll make an effort to stay in touch with the people that truly matter but everyone else is irrelevant to me.
There are other people who fade out because of a force. Whether it be because of an argument, conflict of interest, or the realization that both parties are better off without each other, these people are deliberately pushed out because of a specific reason. This type of fade out typically has a greater internal response due to the fact that it is direct and intentional. Once this force occurs, it is uncertain whether these people are permanently faded out.
One of my family friend was telling me how one of her co-worker was two weeks from making a down payment on a house with his fiancé when she abruptly told him, “I need a break”. This is what makes people so confusing because there is no certainty which people that enter into our lives will remain forever.
However, through this cycle of people fading in and out, the one thing that I am beginning to learn is that there will be people who are there for it all. Everybody has these special people in their lives who allow them to grow and develop and provide continuous support. Although I can’t be sure who those individuals will be or if I have even met them yet, I can be certain that whoever they are, they will be there for everything.