Being Philosophical.
This may not be universally applicable but somehow I’ve come to this conclusion. Everyone has a default approach to things. They have their own priorities in life. Some want to maintain long lasting strong fellow relationships even if it is based on a bed of lies. Some are no less than a ‘Constitution’. They have some sort of chip inserted in their body. They will do what is right at the cost of anything. And some are like God. They can balance all aspects of life in the best way making ‘Welfare of one and all’ as the basic aim of their life.
As the last option can’t be everyone’s forte; it is kinda out of the league. What my experience says is that relationships are what matter the most. You were ethically wrong or right at certain situations will just be forgotten later on if you overcome it by adding some extra sweetness at other occasions.
If you are too much into doing what is morally correct to regard your values, you can’t survive the world. The situations will satisfy you, but on long term basis you didn’t touch any mountain peak! You missed the hamper while being busy with trivial particulars.
In short, to be appreciated you need to lie, break some rules, take some for granted, learn to say ‘no’, break some hearts with no care but medicate it alongside with unexpected and unnatural courtesy.
After all everyone remembers the topping and not the actual ingredients!
This is the irony of life and supposedly this is the key for happy existence.