Relationships

I have looked at quite a lot of relationships, where one person always loves the other more. Right or wrong I don’t know. But somehow the one who loves more, gets maximum hurt. This happens to all our relationships…Isn’t it
The dimensions of relationships is now very dynamic and it has become more complexed now. You have huge expectations from both the parties. “I am right” and “I should have freedom to walk away” are now the reality now and it is not a status symbol anymore…
The problem is…nobody is ready to invest time and patience in their relationships and on top of it the one who is ready to adjust, will be the one who loves more and is humiliated every now or then. Nobody is ready to nurture their relationship(s). It may sound stupid but the way we treat our children and pets, every relationship needs time and patience….nurturing. Bringing up a child is assumed to be a 20 year project….if that’s how it is, then why do we ignore our other relationships??
There is another challenge that is faced in today’s day and age. That is being a second option. There are lot of quotes which say “walk away if you do not get respect” or “You should not be an option be a priority”. Easy to say but difficult to do in practical life. I think we need to leave everything to the two people…who are we to decide whether it’s fine being a second option or not. Nobody wants to be like that….imagine who wants to be in a relationship that’s not worthy….there must be something that is binding them together…could be the love they have…liabilities they have…kids they have…interest they have…we may not know….but we have that habit of always judging people....their behavior, their way of living, lifestyle, their friends…everything!!
But the reality is….who wants to be a second option, when they could be priority to someone…who wants to be an option…but there may be someone like that…they feel its perfectly fine to be an option or a choice…who are we to decide???
I am not in favor of anybody…we are adults and we have all the right to decide who we want to be with…at the end it’s their life and they need to know how to live it…happy or sad…let the individual decide.
Let people live the way they want to!!