Hey, my name’s Vishaal.
I’m new to blogging platforms, but I just wanted to write for a bit and convey my thoughts on something close to me. Medium seemed like a cool way to do it too haha, guess I’ll probably be doing this often or just writing on anything that comes to mind to put my thoughts somewhere. Well this first one’s kind of long, but I mean it’s just something I’ve come to reflect on over the last little while. If you find it in you to go all the way through, hope you found it an interesting read. But if not, thanks for stopping by nevertheless — cheers!
As I graduate from high-school and move onto university, I’ve reflected many times on the countless experiences I’ve grown so much from, as well as the incredible opportunities presented to me — which I’ve been blessed to have been able to share with a diverse range of individuals. Here’s to the years of our lives.
People are incredible. In our world we learn about particular things, develop our thoughts and plans, and apply knowledge in order to execute or achieve something in different aspects of our lives. Whether it be studying, organizing a party, doing extra-curriculars, a night out with friends, working on a project or even making a mixtape.
At a basic level, human reproduction and evolution over time encompasses our purpose as species. But there’s so much more to it — people carry out this process, share their experiences with others, recreate memories and reproduce ideas in different ways by bringing their lives to other people, and grow together in various facets. It’s so much more than what that purpose boils down to, and it literally creates stories, characters, and inspirations. It genuinely blows my mind and adds a completely different dimension to that aforementioned purpose as to what it means to be human, to evolve and reproduce.
I say this by looking at my own story. The influence your surroundings have on you is truly astounding. 18 years later in Mississauga, I’ve really been shaped by the experiences shared with friends and family. It’s not only humbling to see yourself grow and “come up” alongside others, but it’s also something to know yourself by. The fact that other people have cared about me, shared fond experiences with me as a part of their life is something that I appreciate more and more as days go by. It’s grounding to take a step back and look at your life through this sort of viewpoint — learning holistically from all these people, bettering myself because of the environment that I was in, and being able to develop a network myself to further these experiences.
I’m thankful for everyone I know, and the chapters I’ve been able to write with them in their own stories too. Speaking from the point of view of someone who didn’t have much of an identity for himself, I also take so much pride in this. I take pride in friends who become family, I take pride in learning and being able to balance different aspects of my life, and I take pride in myself for being able to make whatever I’ve made of myself so far. It’s amazing to see yourself grow.
Until the last 2 or 3 years of schooling where I was able to do the most for myself, I never really got the chance to think about this too much, about the relationship between myself and the people around me.
I am the product of every opportunity I’ve been able to undertake and every experience I’ve been a part of, and the people associated thereof.
I’ve grown to become a person who some people like and some people don’t, but at the end of the day I am who I am because of everyone. A lot of people I know have a particular image of me and have grown to expect something of me. Look at this post even. Whether it be ridiculous and linguistically flawed as my tweets (they’re lit though don’t lie), or as ostentatious and meticulous as my English essays (shoutout to Erein Brown), a lot of people expect a certain standard from me and I can’t wait to keep going and make more of myself — hopefully with some great company too.
People demand and work towards a certain satisfaction, myself included, from their endeavours. Ultimately, I’m trying to satisfy myself. But so is everyone else. So can you have compromise in decisions made to satisfy everyone you’re dealing with? Probably not. Satisfaction and the pursuit to get to it really stresses people out. It has the potential to ruin your day, and have a detrimental effect on your relationships and responsibilities. Confronting intrapersonal matters and group dynamics is another big part of growing with people. I’ve been through quite a few ups and downs with different groups of people, learning how to deal with scenarios in different ways. Being able to address these and move on just makes these relationships so much better. Take things as they come, learn from them, and don’t take some things too seriously. Like I said earlier, people you are around have such a crucial impact on your character. It’s important to do things for other people every now and then and know how to deal with people, but it’s also necessary to take care of yourself.
But hey, I’m not saying don’t care about people. Reciprocate the love you receive, be a part of bigger things, and make good friends. It’s so important to make good friends. Sharing experiences with my friends has brought me so many things I’ve been blessed with, some of the things I treasure the most today in fact.
At the age of 18, I couldn’t be more excited to see where this momentum takes me. It’s good to be introspective to humble yourself every now and then, but you should also be appreciative of yourself and look at stuff you’ve managed to accomplish. Whether it be socially, academically, or personally, everyone has this great potential to grow, and you should be proud of yourself. Noone says you have to leave a legacy through human evolution, just know that you’re doing well for yourself and that you’re never on your own. Surround yourself with the right people, and do you. Can I say I’ve made the right decisions? I mean, I’ll never know where the other path would have taken me, but I can definitely say I’ve had a hell of a time and I’ll continue having the same on the one I’m on.
“And really, I think I like who I’m becoming” — Drake
Thanks for stopping by friends,